It is not uncommon for women to have heavy mood
swings just after pregnancy. If these swings are extremely
severe, they may be caused by Postpartum Depression (PPD).
If it seems serious, consult a counselor or psychiatrist who
has experience with postpartum depression.
Many people do not understand that postpartum
depression is a physical disorder. It is not something that people
can simply snap out of. A depressed mother can no more
snap out of postpartum depression than you could snap
out of the flu or bronchitis.
Although there is not a surefire cure for postpartum
depression, there is a lot that you can do to make the new
mom feel as comfortable as possible. Support and
encouragement are invaluable. Encourage her to consider
support groups. Social isolation will intensify postpartum
depression. Remind her that the illness is only temporary
and she will get better.
General fatigue is a common sign of postpartum
depression, and is often accompanied by a lack of motivation,
inability to concentrate, loss of memory, and lowered
interest in sex and activities that were previously enjoyed.
Assist mom with this by helping her to develop a to-do list
or schedule of tasks. At this point in time, you may need to
take on nearly all baby related tasks. You can even help
out with breast feeding, especially for those late night
snacks. Get out of bed and get the baby, bring him to the
mother and help him to latch on and switch sides when
he's done with one. Throughout it all, mom can remain
only semi-conscious, and will certainly thank you in the
morning.
Postpartum depression can lead to tension and anxiety
which can cause headaches, neck pain, and chest
tightness. Mom may also start feeling panicked or worried all
the time. There are many things that she can do to relieve this
tension. Suggest walking, swimming, yoga and
meditation, massage, or hot compresses on the neck and
shoulders. If she develops insomnia, try a warm bath before
bed, a sleeping mask or earplugs, or a light snack and
warm milk to help her sleep.
A combination of the postpartum depression, tension, and
insomnia can easily lead a mother into distorted thinking
and cause her to become unreasonable. She may resent
your attempt at helping her or get angry for no reason.
Keep in mind that it is the changes in her body that are
making her act that way. Try not to take her criticism
personally. Even if she is being unreasonable, do not argue
with her. Avoid blaming her attitude on her hormones if that
makes her angry. Some women cannot stand the
accusation that they are not in control of their emotions. If
you begin feeling worried that you can't handle what's
happening, do not hesitate to seek counseling for yourself.
Support people often need help too.
